An arrogant (cocky) person may seem to ignore any areas of weakness and only play up areas of strength, but they often do so because of an inability to come to terms with weakness. Arrogance is often underplayed by insecurity. An arrogant person tends to be arrogant to compensate for areas of weakness that distress the individual.
A confident person accepts their weaknesses or faults, even though they may not like them. This acceptance enables the confident person to handle faults with grace and without further compacting the areas of weakness with arrogance. A confident person finds the root of their confidence in self acceptance - a key confidence vs arrogance difference.
These are key points when understanding confidence vs arrogance.
Just like my DB Anthem, we've all dated or been friends with people who aren't exactly well-rounded and life-fulfilling companions. It's fine to have them around as superficial acquaintances at least for a phase, but you will only be disappointed in the long run if you try to count on them to have your back at all times. Most importantly, you want people around who will be there not just when everything is great, but also when you're at your lowest. I've found that the arrogant people tend to be arrogant because they want people to think they live this great life even though the truth might be far from it. These people tend to not have many true friends and are most likely not very happy. So when someone tries to rub their "glamorous" life in your face, consider that they are likely embellishing and just trying to seek your approval. :)
--Words of wisdom from a not always wise girl, but I'm always learning.
In the movie, "The Devil's Advocate," Al Pacino has a great line where he says, "never let them see you coming." That simple line resonates with me because it's such a good principle to live by if you consider yourself a person of any kind of substance and/or character.
ReplyDeleteYou're right ... sometimes you can spot the dowshbag in the room just by seeing who has the biggest mouth. Posers are a dime-a-dozen ... stick with the people who walk the walk.